Are bathhouses part of BDSM? Not directly but some of the same needs might be met and one just might find a sub or Dom who rocks your world.
I’m going to quote Wikipedia’s definition of bathhouse:
“A gay bathhouse, also known as a gay sauna or a gay steam bath, is a commercial space for men to have sex with other men. In gay slang, a bathhouse may be called just “the baths,” “the sauna” or “the tubs”. In general, a gay bath is used for having sexual activity rather than only bathing.
Not all men who visit a gay bathhouse are considered gay. Bathhouses offering similar services for women are rare, but some men’s bathhouses occasionally have a “lesbian” or “women only” night.
Bathhouses vary considerably in size and amenities – from small establishments with 10 or 20 rooms and a handful of lockers to multi-story saunas with a variety of room styles or sizes and several steam baths, Jacuzzi tubs, and sometimes swimming pools. Most have a steam room (or wet sauna), dry sauna, showers, lockers, and small private rooms.
Many bathhouses are, for legal reasons, “membership only”, though membership is generally open to any adult who seeks it, usually after paying a small fee. Unlike brothels, customers pay only for the use of the facilities. Sexual activity, if it occurs, is not provided by staff of the establishment but is between customers, and no money is exchanged. Many gay bathhouses, for legal reasons, explicitly prohibit or discourage prostitution and ban known prostitutes.” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_bathhouse
I do not have direct experience with bathhouse so I turned to my Pretty Ones on Facebook. The lovely Kyle volunteered to answer some basic questions about his experiences at a bathhouse.
|1) You’ve gone to bathhouses. How often? Same one?
I have been going to a few bathhouses since 2009. In San Diego I went to Club SD. Up here, I go to Steamworks (if I ever get the urge to go). Over the past years, I have pretty much stopped going. I didn’t have a car, and there was no way I was letting somebody drive me 45 minutes from home just to end up stranded should they decide to leave without me.
2) Can you describe the interior(s)?
Inside they are usually dimly lit, humid, industrial-esk, loud, and smell of disinfectant and chlorine. Both bathhouses are fashioned like hotels in similar fashion except Steamworks (SW) is single storied and has no ceiling (the roof is about 60′ up) and Club SD (CSD) is two storied with a few two-storied open areas. Inside are group showers (sometimes lights on, sometimes off), wet and dry saunas, hot tubs with seating for about 20-30 comfortably, a gym, rooms with various types of seating and various types of porn playing on many different screens, oh and there are vending machines with condoms, lube, cock rings, vibrating bullets, anal douches, toothpaste, mouth wash, dental floss, nail clippers, OMG just ask me if a particular item can be found in these vending machines. They also have vending machines with drinks, snacks, and other food types. Both have common areas away from all the action, and everybody respects that area. Go there to have a cigarette and catch a breather.
My first time at a bathhouse was when a man at a bar was to take me to base because I missed the last bus back from my favorite gay bar in San Diego. He took me to CSD where I bought a room (receipt was credit in my name), by the time we got to the room, I was in and out of being blacked out (I had a drinking problem when I was younger and in the Navy. It was called, not respecting my limits) but I remember being into it when I was “there.”
Sex and drugs? Yes! Give me a place where I don’t have to worry about the cops, bags are checked, I can be almost as loud as I want and I can have as many drug induced sexual encounters as I can?! Shut up and take my filthy gay drug money! Literally why I went back, every damn time.
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