Shibari to Tie by Z. Allora

Beyond the Scene Shibari to Tie

 

 

History of Shibari

Shibari is the Japanese word that means “to tie.” Originally, the rope bondage was simply a way to restrain a captive. In the 1400’s to the 1700’s, the Samurai Code of Conduct required they treated their captives well. The higher to status of the prisoner the more intricate the rope were tied, so even while the knots tormented the care in which the captives were tied showed respect.

In the late 19th century and early 20th century, Shibari morphed into Kinbaku. Kinbaku is the art of erotic bondage aka knots for love and sex. However, in the West we tend to just called the practice Shibari and it’s no longer considered part of the martial arts.

I like this analogy about bondage: A rope master in the art of Shibari uses the ropes as paint and the person/model/sub they are tying is the canvas the master creates something beautiful, and erotic.

Shibari to Heaven

As with many BDSM practices, Shibari increases endorphins and hormones which can push the person into subspace or topspace.

Path to Sub space: Having someone you trust enough to incapacitate you is a mindfuck. You’re handing over everything to another. Once your mind accepts your trust was well-place the ropes begin to work on easing you or cranking you up depending on your individual reaction.

The pattern of rope wraps and knots stimulate pressure points which can be amazing (or could lead to possible nerve damage >>> which is why I CONSTANTLY beat the drum of SAFETY 1st & ALWAYS!)

Some people liken Shibari to Shiatsu (type of Japanese massage) or acupuncture which helps the tied person’s energy flow. Suspension can be added which increases the pressure put on each knot and tie which can intensify the experience. Also adds to the feeling of helplessness. The subspace that can be found is sublime.

Road to Top Space: Another person/sub/bottom is entrusting their entire being to you. They are allowing you to restrict and, in some cases, even take away their ability to move. They trust you will honor their safeword, help them escape if need be and to provide aftercare so their landing back to earth is soft.

With the ropes you can stimulate both pleasure and pain making those sensation mix together feeding your Dommy inner sadist. Making a sub crave pain can be an incredible rush of power. Not only is another dependent on you for their pleasure or pain but for their safety. Definitely fulfills one’s need to control.

 

Beginners Guide to Rope Bondage from UberKinky gives a concise list of the things to do and the things not to do. (As with any list it doesn’t cover every person or situation. Always be aware of individual differences and those must be considered.)

Do

  • Expand pressure points by using multiple coils (wraps)
  • Make sure coils are side by side; never cross the rope
  • Practice tying and untying knots beforehand
  • Apply warmth after scene to get the blood flowing
  • Discuss boundaries and decide on a safe word/action
  • Stop immediately if the bottom experiences pain or signs of circulatory problems
  • Remove restraints carefully to prevent rope burn
  • Have a pair of blunt scissors handy. Ideally, they should be angled like EMT scissors

 

Don’t

  • Tie knots too tightly; follow the finger rule and allow additional space around the rib cage
  • Leave a bound bottom unattended
  • Attempt suspension bondage without proper training
  • Use a gag, unless a safe action has been decided upon
  • Engage in rope bondage if the bottom has a heart/respiratory/circulatory condition
  • Play in the dark – the bottom needs to be watched over
  • Use a slip style knot around the neck, or restrict breathing in any way

This information can be found here: https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/essential-guides/restraint-guides/beginners-guide-to-rope-bondage.html

 

What rope should I use?

A question that will usually get you the frustrating answer of: It depends.

Why? Because it does.

Every scene has a different set of factors and goals, add in each individual’s needs, limitations, experience level… you get the picture on why it depends really is the most responsible answer.

In order to do a quick rundown of some different types of rope available, I’m going to sum up an article Bondage Rope: What Kind of Rope Is Best for Bondage? posted On the Bondage Connection by Pete Riggs published on July 24,2015. (I’m using a basic article to sum up the rope types because I went through this process decades ago so ruled out things and evolved to address where I am now >>> I don’t want to affect your decision based on my filter and I’m here to explore not prescribe > only the people involved have the details to get the knowledge they need to make the right decisions for them.)

Types of Rope Available 

Cotton

Pros: Cheap, knots hold well, washable, strong, lightweight
Cons: Knots hold tight so untying is slow. (Tend not to be use for suspension work)

Hemp

Pros: Favored for Shibari, very strong, good in suspension work, strong tooth (holds in place), look beautiful, various textures (soft or scratchy).
Cons: Can be pricey, find a trusted manufacturer or deal with shedding fibers.

Jute

Pros: Favorite with Shibari masters, lays well but it is less flexible, good for hitches and suspension work, durable, gets better with use.
Cons: Expensive, can cause friction burn if you work too fast with it.

Polypropylene with core intact Polypropylene Webbing (core removed)

Pros: Almost no tooth (= much less friction) which allows a skilled rigger/Rope Master to untie quick without much fear of friction burn, light weight, easy to untie, prettier knots that sit flatter on skin (especially if you remove the core) which means the pressure is more diffused, and it’s washable.
Cons: Can melt with heat so might need to avoid using wax with this type of rope. Can’t use slipknots, less tooth so can’t depend on the rope tension to hold weight.

Nylon

Pros: Different kinds of rope marks (what’s left after removal by the lines and knots), strong, flexible, soft, washable.
Cons: Expensive and not recommended for Shibari

((https://www.ropeconnections.com/kind-bondage-rope-best-bondage))

 

START SLOW.

Remember you LEARNED to drive a car you didn’t jump in and drive off. PLEASE use the same respect with this practice. (BTW some of the best Rope Masters out there will say they practice Shibari because they constantly strive to improve and expand their knowledge).

Shibari and any rope play can be an incredible experience. Individual differences and preferences may apply. Please play with someone who is experienced, or take a class, watch videos, go to demonstrations, ask questions of people you trust.

And because you know I’m paranoid I beg you to please take a look at this website (and others) about injuries:  https://www.shibariclasses.com/courses/shibari_1/lectures/110914

Keep in mind your needs/limits/life/physical body may change meaning you should revisit your choices (in every aspect of BDSM) on a regular basis.

Have fun and be safe!

Always seek your own truth.

I’d love to hear from you so comment here or use the contact information to touch base with me privately.

Many hugs,

Z. Allora

 

To contact Z. Allora:

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BIO: Z. Allora believes in happily ever after for everyone. She met her own true love through the personals and has traveled to over thirty countries with him. She’s lived in Singapore, Israel and China. Now back home to the USA she’s an active member of PFLAG and a strong supporter of those on the rainbow in her community. She wants to promote understanding and acceptance through her actions and words. Writing rainbow romance allows her the opportunity to open hearts and change minds.

 

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